Despite tumultuous changes in the "traditional" U.S. family since the 1950s, much of the recent moralizing over "family values" is actually doing more to hurt families than to help, argues a UC Davis sociologist. In her new book published last month, Professor Judith Stacey suggests that instead of bemoaning the changes, those making public policy ought to accept that the era of "Ozzie and Harriet"-style families has ended. Instead, in the postmodern period, they ought to promote "better living and spiritual conditions for the diverse array of real families we actually inhabit and desire." Stacey's book, "In the Name of the Family," (Beacon Press), points out that in actuality no single family pattern dominates. "Only a minority of U.S. households still contain married couples with children; and many of these include divorced and remarried adults." More kids today live with single moms than with a stay-at-home mom and employed father, she says. To make life better for single parents, society could try to offer more collective responsibility for children. And to further create respect for diverse and vibrant families, Stacey advocates the legalization of same-sex marriages.